What I’m discovering from listening to both of these incredibly driven people (and also Dr. Joe Dispenza and Bob Proctor) is that WE control our minds, our minds do not control US. That sounds kind of stupid and simple, but I find that too often I give over to my brain and follow whatever it is telling me. According to Mel, after we have a thought we have five seconds to act on it. If we don’t act on it, then our mind talks us out of whatever it was we were briefly inspired to do. That means, as soon as you think of something “good” you should be doing- eating right, exercising, working, cleaning, making a phone call, sending an email, etc… you have to get your ass up and go do it or within five seconds your brain starts saying, “Oh, you can do that later,” and you believe and agree with your brain because humans are natural procrastinators. Highly successful people however dictate to their minds, not the other way around- they don’t give their mind a chance to say anything negative.
The best piece of advice I’ve come away with was from Tony Robbins who said that our every decision and our every reason for doing things should be based on our life’s purpose. If we are fulfilling our destiny then we’re serving others. And if we’re serving others then we’re motivated. He asked a series of questions that led me to blurt out that my greatest desire in life is… to make people laugh. That’s it. I was shocked it didn’t have something to do with writing, but then I realized writing is simply a vehicle for humor; writing is not altruism in and of itself. So the biggest question for me becomes: how do I make people laugh through my writing? After all, I’m not particularly funny and I am nowhere near the insanely talented caliber of Janet Evanovich or Erma Bombeck. In fact, I’m so unsure of my humor that I once googled “How to be funny” before a family get together. The internet had spit out atypic suggestions like, “Say the word kumquat a lot because it’s a weird word and people will laugh.” I actually did try throwing kumquat into many conversations over the next month, both where it fit and where it didn’t, but no one was amused.
The whole point to this particular blog is me just trying to feel my way to controlling my life the way it’s supposed to be headed. You see, getting the chance to be creative full-time has totally thrown me for a loop. I haven’t had the luxury of exploring my imagination since high school when I wrote story after story for my creative writing courses. I’ve been in the working world so long that when it comes to a job, I am used to being told what to do; the lines clearly drawn, the tasks spelled out and the deadlines starkly immovable. Writing fiction- that’s taking everything out of me creatively without any boundaries or directives. I get to decide what to write about, how to structure the story, how to move my characters around. I’m completely and utterly out of my league because I’ve never had this kind of freedom when it comes to work.
In short, it’s like I’m waiting for someone to tell me what to do. In a lot of ways I’m stunting my own personal growth because of the routine I’m used to when it comes to job duties. I’ve never had free licensing to do what I want. I find myself like a kid in a candy store- so totally overwhelmed with exciting possibilities that my feet are stuck to the sugary ground and all I can do is stare at the colorful beauty around me and imagine what it would be like to gorge myself. There’s nothing holding me back and that is so totally foreign. I’m completely thrown for a loop.
But this past few months what I’ve discovered is that the ultimate secret in life is not waiting for others to tell us what to do, what to dream, what to believe, but it is our heart telling our mind what our soul knows to be true. Does that sound hippie-ish? It’s really not. Our brain believes whatever we tell it.
So I’m telling my brain I want to make people happy by cracking them up. I’m telling my brain I want to be a bestselling author. And I’m telling my brain I want to get over my personal issues so I can make a difference in this life. I don’t know how all of that is going to happen, but I do know if I try to make the right choices, even just five seconds at a time, the possibilities are endless.
Namaste, my friends 🙂